Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Expectation for A Stay At Home Mom (SAHM)

It is sad when someone would think as a SAHM you can afford to lay in bed all day. Honestly I would love to do that. I would love a day to myself. To wine down. To be pampered. How is miss that! It is true what a friend of mine said. People have high expectation for a SAHM.

Does these people think we do nothing at home? I sometimes skip meal just to attend to my son. He is always looking for attention and wants me to play with him. That is why I rarely update my blog now. As I am writing this entry, my son has demand for me a few times. "Save to draft". Even going to the loo is inconvenient sometimes. Sometimes I don't even get to finish my "business" in the toilet. Even bathing has to be cut short to less than 5 minutes. I can't even remember when was the last time I got a decent eyebrow threading and waxing. If I get to do is always in a rush. Time flies fast. In between waking up...preparing breakfast for my son, giving him a bath, then prepare his lunch...playtime with him and then putting him to sleep for afternoon nap....there isn't much time. Sometimes I get to clean a little...vacumn and mop the house. Even when he is taking his afternoon nap he would wake up wanting to be breastfeed. Some said that I am skinnier than before I had a child. Well try to eat at odd timing (read "whenever you can if you can") and sometimes you are unable to even finish the meal. Not the best diet right?

I have been a SAHM since October last year. Even though the best part is you get to take care of your own child, it is tiring and I had to sacrifice my job. When I sacrifice my job...means I sacrifice other things as well. And even I am not earning anything..I still pay my own bills. Where do I get the money from? My savings. Thank God for good bonus last year. Which is about to finish soon. Hmm...

Being a working mom is better since you would have a little time to yourself. Fix breakfast and lunch time at least and you get to eat unless for some reason you are involved in a huge project that makes you busy like hell. And people would say you are doing something and not just "sitting at home doing nothing". Still expectation is there. You help your spouse to make ends meat and at home you still have to take care of the household plus you won't get to see you child much. He spends 10 hours a day, 5 days a week with someone else. Honestly, I think most women nowadays are superwomen.

I may have to go back to work by June 2014 but the thought of letting someone else take care of Wildan is heartbreaking. As they can't get everything. Sacrifice is always there.

To mothers out there. I salute you whether you are a SAHM, WAHM or WM..coz we always try our best! Kudos to us!